Are Your Excuses Stopping You from Achieving Your Dreams?

Ivan Ocampo
6 min readDec 12, 2023

Seven Excuses Holding You Back: Overcoming Obstacles to Achieve Your Dreams

Overcoming personal excuses on the path to achieving dreams

Do you ever find yourself tangled in a web of excuses? These self-spun narratives, while seemingly protective, often become the chains that bind us, hindering our journey towards success and self-fulfillment. The key to breaking free from this labyrinth lies within us. It’s a blend of self-belief, a dash of courage, and a relentless pursuit of growth, both personally and academically. Let us embark on a reflective exploration of the common barriers that hinder our path to higher education and beyond.

As the calendar turns a new page, marking the advent of another year, we find ourselves poised at the precipice of new beginnings. The tradition of New Year’s resolutions beckons us with a promise of renewal, urging us to rekindle the dreams that may have been extinguished by the relentless passage of time. It is in this spirit of rejuvenation that we confront additional excuses that often hinder our pursuit of dreams.

1. “I’m Too Old”

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever”

Mahatma Gandhi’s immortal words ring with timeless wisdom. Age, often perceived as a limitation, is in reality a mere number in the grand scheme of learning and personal development. Whether it’s mastering the piano, embarking on an academic journey, or transitioning careers, the narrative that ‘it’s too late’ is a myth. Growth and learning are lifelong pursuits, transcending the confines of age.

The adage ‘age is just a number’ resonates profoundly here. The passage of years, often perceived as a deterrent, can instead be seen as a repository of wisdom, experience, and resilience. History is replete with luminaries who blossomed in the later stages of their lives, proving that the pursuit of dreams is not the sole province of youth. Reflect upon this: might not the years you’ve lived enrich your journey towards your dreams, lending depth and perspective that only time can bestow?

2. “I Don’t Have Enough Time”

Time, an ever-elusive resource, is often cited as a barrier. This is the chorus of the over-committed, the anthem of the modern age. Yet, time, like a river, flows incessantly and impartially. Consider the philosophy of time management as an art form — prioritizing, delegating, and, most importantly, recognizing the value of your dreams in the grand scheme of life’s commitments. Is it not possible that the dream itself could be woven into the daily fabric of existence, finding pockets of time where dedication can flourish?

Earl Nightingale challenges this notion:

“Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”

It’s about reshaping our “if only” laments into actionable steps. Small, consistent efforts, like carving out thirty minutes from a day otherwise lost to digital distractions, can lead to monumental changes over time.

3. “It’s Too Hard”

The journey towards achieving our dreams is seldom an easy one. Art Williams aptly puts it:

“I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy — I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it.”

The path is indeed strewn with financial, emotional, and physical challenges. Yet, the investment in oneself is incomparable, and thankfully, support systems exist to aid us in this quest.

The complexity or difficulty of a task can loom large, casting a shadow of intimidation. Yet, consider this: the greatest achievements often arise from the most challenging endeavors. The philosophy here is not to diminish the difficulty, but to magnify your determination. Break down the daunting task into manageable segments, approach each with a strategy, and remember, the sweetness of success is often proportional to the hardships endured.

4. “I’m Not Smart Enough”

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its whole life thinking it’s stupid.”

Albert Einstein serves as a powerful reminder. Intelligence is multifaceted and unique to each individual. The belief that one is not intellectually ‘enough’ is a false narrative that needs to be unlearned.

This excuse is a mirror reflecting our deepest insecurities. What if, instead of a mirror, it becomes a window, through which you view your journey as a process of becoming? Each step, an act of self-improvement, each challenge, an opportunity to rise above your former self.

5. “I’m Not Motivated Enough”

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work.”

Motivation is the fuel that drives the engine of achievement. Steve Jobs encapsulates this essence highlighting how crucial it is to continuously remind ourselves of the ‘why’ behind our goals. This clarity of purpose is what keeps our eyes fixed on the prize.

Indeed, this is often the silent thief of dreams. Motivation, however, is not a constant companion; it is a flame that needs to be continually kindled. The key lies in finding your intrinsic motivators — be it the joy of the pursuit, the satisfaction of personal growth, or the anticipated fulfillment of the dream. Pair this with setting small, achievable goals, celebrating each milestone, and seeking inspiration from those who have trodden similar paths.

6. “I’m Scared to Fail”

Ah, the specter that haunts many a dream. Yet, what if we reframe failure? Imagine it not as a pitfall, but as a stepping stone, each misstep a lesson in disguise. History is replete with tales of triumphs born from the ashes of failure. Embrace this evolutionary journey; let the fear transform into a catalyst for growth and learning. Failure, often viewed as an end, is in fact a crucial part of the learning process. Eloise Ristad puts it beautifully:

“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.”

Recall the first time you tried a new skill; success rarely accompanies the initial attempt. Embracing failure as a stepping stone is vital for growth.

7. “I Don’t Know Where to Start”

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.”

Dale Carnegie’s words serve as a clarion call to action. The initial step in any journey can be daunting, but it is the most crucial. Procrastination, fueled by overthinking, only amplifies fear. The antidote lies in action, however small it may seem. The shadows of uncertainty and indecision cloud judgment, yet they are inherent to the human condition. Embrace them. Let the uncertainty be a canvas of possibilities, the indecision a moment of contemplation. Reflect deeply, make informed choices, and then, commit to the path chosen with the fullness of your being.

Conclusion

As we stand at the threshold of a New Year, embracing the spirit of new starts and resolutions, let’s learn to challenge these excuses. This year can be marked not by the dreams we deferred, but by the barriers we overcame. Each excuse confronted brings us a step closer to the realization of our aspirations, reminding us that the pursuit of dreams is an ever-evolving journey, not bounded by age, not deterred by difficulty, and continuously fueled by our innermost desires and motivations.

Of our lives is woven with threads of dreams, aspirations, and potential. Yet, it is often marred by the patterns of excuses we weave into it. By confronting and dismantling these self-imposed barriers, we unlock the doors to self-improvement, academic achievement, and a fulfilling future. Remember, believing in yourself is half the battle. The other half? Taking that first step towards your dreams, undeterred by the chorus of excuses.

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Ivan Ocampo

Ivan Ocampo: Ph.D. student working at the nexus of Virtual Environments and social cohesion. Coffee addict, story teller, science geek.